It is all very well to read styling blogs, understand the theory behind a capsule wardrobe, and know what clothes make you feel good… But let’s talk about actually dressing YOU in real life, OK?
I have two words for you – Integrity and Consistency.
These two words can be applied to almost all areas of your life – behaviour, nutrition, parenting, marriage… but we are going to talk about it in terms of your wardrobe. YOUR wardrobe.
All sounds a bit strange, you think? Well, I haven’t always lived in this way, but I have learnt a lot in recent years. I have put it into practice. I believe I am onto something… and I want to share it.
Integrity stems from the Latin word ‘integer’, which means whole and complete. It also requires a consistency of character. When you have integrity, people should be able to visibly see it through your actions, words, decisions, methods, and outcomes. When you are ‘whole’ and ‘consistent’, there is only ONE YOU.
That last sentence in the key – only ONE you!
You bring that same you wherever you are, regardless of the circumstance. You don’t leave parts of yourself behind. You don’t have a ‘work you,’ a ‘family you,’ and a ‘social you.’ You are YOU all the time.
I recognise that it is actually extremely difficult practice integrity 100% of the time.
Sometimes, our emotions get the best of us and we are unable to intentionally manage our behaviour and actions. When you take consistent action every single day, your brain absorbs a wealth of information and ideas, and creates a positive feedback, that can help you keep going. Taking consistent action creates momentum and builds on itself and we began to feel the improvements little by little, ultimately, building confidence.
Aristotle said, “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.”
So, what has this got to do with getting dressed?
It is simple really – Knowing your style, knowing what suits your body, knowing what makes you feel good, and having a wardrobe that complements this, means you will dress everyday as YOU. When you consistently dress this way, you will grow in sense of self, you feel good and you build confidence.
For example: My personal style is all about timeless neutrals. I love soft fabrics, delicate wools and cashmere, and I like to look good – like everyone else – but I am also a busy working mum. I do washing, I go shopping, I do daycare pickups, work meetings and park dates. My clothes have to get me through my day, from running errands to meeting clients to building duplo… and everything in-between!
So my wardrobe is purpose built so I am ‘me’ in my work clothes, and ‘me’ when I am out at the park. I am ‘me’ in my pyjamas and I am ‘me’ when I go out for dinner. I am just ME. I have less, I have quality, I wear all my clothes, I love how they make me feel, I dress consistently, and I dress with integrity.
So if all this sounds like something you would like to try…
Don’t be afraid to roll up your jeans and wear them with runners to the park, and then with heels out for dinner that night. Buy a nice, crisp white shirt and wear it to work as well as out to lunch on the weekend. A cotton long sleeve dress can be dressed up or down with the addition of a scarf and a pair of wedges. You may find scarves are your thing, or silk pants, or tight jeans or whatever – know it, own it, wear it.
Believe me, dress with integrity, live consistently, be the one YOU, and your confidence will follow…
For those interested, these are a few of the items I LIVE in.
I live on Sydney’s northern beaches, and I find cotton T’s are appropriate majority of the year. I love the deep V tees as I can dress them down with jeans or up with a skirt or black pants. I always have white, grey and striped T’s in both long and short sleeve.
A white shirt / blouse is an absolute essential for me! I love wearing with dark jeans and tan flats or slides. From holiday’s in Noosa, to visiting family in Melbourne, this combination is a winner for almost every occasion!
I live in simple dresses on the weekends – with runners, sandals or slides. I have two different coloured long sleeve dresses for autumn and Spring and two T-shirt dresses for summer.
I LOVE a beautiful jumper in winter – again I can wear with jeans and runners or black pants and heels. I have a gorgeous grey Cashmere jumper, which has lasted me 3 winters now, and I am lucky enough to have two merino wool jumpers this winter to add to my wardrobe and dress up or down.
I also live in Slouch pants when I have a day at home with a sweatshirt or my cashmere, and my gorgeous dusty pink cotton PJ’s in the evenings… these are the BEST PJ’s ever! xx